Everyone always knows what's best for you, what if what you have is best?

We've all been told at some point that, "You deserve better, or They don't deserve you". This statement usually comes when our family, and friends feel as though we're being mistreated, unappreciated, dealt an unfair hand, or when we're caught up in situations that don't serve any purpose, or mean us any good. It's common for our loved ones to feel a sense of concern for our well-being, but what makes them so sure that we're not happy, content, or unbothered by the situations we're in. I mean, what if you're okay with the situation? Is it not possible for someone to be happy in a unbalanced situation? If opposites attract then it's expected that the situation isn't going to be perfect.

People always assume the worse, because they're on the outside looking in, but what if the "worse" is actually good? Not following? Okay, well, let me put it this way...when someone says, "You deserve better", we can all agree that they're referring to the situation you're in as a situation you shouldn't be in, because it's not producing the type of treatment "You" deserve. But, what if it's not about what you "deserve", what if it's what you "want"? A situation may in fact not be the type of situation that person should be in (to you), but what if that person is actually happy? ...Meaning, The person (we'll refer to them as the "asshole") might not deserve to be with them, but they deserve to be with the asshole? Still don't get it, not following? Okay, let me break it down for you a little bit more. Some people are so caught up in their love, desire, or lust to be with the one they "love" that they would want nothing more than to be with that person even if he/she is an asshole.

Being with the one they truly love is what makes them happy, therefore, it's not about the asshole's happiness, it's about the happiness of the one who's in love. So, even though the "Asshole" doesn't deserve to be with them, they deserves to be with the "asshole", because the "asshole" is really who they want to be with, and who actually makes them happy. The fact that they are a good person is why they really deserve to be with that person, because it's who they really want to be with even if the one they want doesn't deserve to be with them. Get it!

If someone is happy being in a situation, it doesn't matter how they're being treated, because they're happy. You can't decide a person's happiness, or think you know what makes a person happy, they have to decide that for themselves. "Everyone deserves to be with someone that makes them happy, even if that someone is an asshole, if they make them happy then they deserve to be with them, because that is where their happiness is" -Ms. Ross